The most common quote we've had shared with us as parents has been, "parenting doesn't come with an instruction manual." In those first few days in the hospital you are surrounded by experts that can help answer any of your questions at all hours of the day. But then you find yourself at home where everything looks the same, but your whole world is completely different. I remember feeling so overwhelmed those first few days. Between breastfeeding, the sleep deprivation, and our inability to making any sort of working swaddle, we felt that we had no idea what we were doing. There are a few things I wish I could go back and tell myself to help us as new parents.
In this post today I will share some tips to hopefully help your transition into parenthood go more smoothly.
6 Tips for New Parents
1. Take Breaks
There were many moments where my wife and I had to lean on each other to take over when we were getting frustrated. There is nothing wrong with knowing your limitations and asking your partner or support people to step in. You and your child will be better and safer for it.
2. Ask for Help from your Support People
It is important to ask for help when you need it. Whether it's to help watch the baby while you and your partner take a shower, to help with chores, or help with meals, asking your support network can make your transition to new parents smoother. If you do not have a lot of support people, look out for free local parenting groups to join in your neighborhood.
3. Don’t be Afraid to Call your Pediatrician and OBGYN with Questions
If you have any questions, don't be shy to call your pediatrician and OBGYN. They are there to answer any inquiries you have. As a new mother your body is going to go through many changes in those six weeks before your check-in appointment and it's okay to reach out and ask if what you are experiencing is normal. Regarding your pediatrician, they should have on-call hours 24 hours a day to help with any questions or concerns you have about your new baby.
4. Use your Judgement with Others' Advice
As new parents, you will get a steady stream of unsolicited advice from others. Know that you do not have to follow any of the advice that is given to you unless it is from a medical professional. Simply say thank you and use your own judgement on whether or not to take the advice. Ultimately every child's needs are different and what works for someone else may not work for you.
5. Don’t be Afraid to Say No to Visitors
Everyone, even people you have barely spoken to over the past five years want to come and visit your new baby. It is okay to say no. Those first few weeks are overwhelming by themselves; take the time you need to settle with your new family and life before sharing it with others.
6. Be patient with yourself
You are going to make mistakes; this is a new experience with many challenges that is impossible to fully prepare for. Be kind to yourself, as long as you are doing your best, you are already doing enough.
Be kind to yourself, lean on others for support, don't be afraid to ask questions, and take the advice you like and leave the rest. You got this!
Thanks for reading!
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